So many of us suffer from at point or another from a lack of confidence. Women that seem to suffer are less likely to share their opinions in a group of people, and they are more likely to apologize for things that aren’t their fault. People with low confidence are also less likely to take risks, and more likely to take criticism personally. But remember, you are not in this life alone, In Hebrews 13:6 it says:
“The Lord is my helper;
I will not fear.
What can man do to me?”
But what is confidence?
Confidence is an emotional and mental state of mind which response to our need for acceptance and recognition. It’s among the oldest and most studied concepts in psychology. Confidence is used as a tool to measure a person’s perception of oneself and abilities. Hence, self-confident people have a better knowledge of what they can do and are more likely to be successful in what they attempt.
The good book tells us:
I can do all things through Him who strengthens me. Phil 4:13
Therefore do not throw away your confidence, which has a great reward. For you have need of endurance,… Heb 10:35-36
So we can confidently say, “The Lord is my helper; I will not fear; what can man do to me?” Heb 13:6
Here are 3 ways to help build your confidence right now:
- Recognizing the lack. Understanding your lack of confidence may help you find the root to why you doubt your actions or decisions. New research indicates that parenting style has a significant impact on the development of the self-confidence of children. Bodily and emotional abuses during childhood are for example the worse for a person’s self-confidence, as well as divorce and family conflicts. Overprotective parents may also be a reason for a child’s social phobia and hamper the independence that is necessary to develop a belief in your abilities. Successes and failures, for example at school or in one’s professional life, also play a significant role: losing a job or failing a class is among the several experiences that will have a negative impact your self-confidence.
- Get out of your comfort zone. People with a low level of self-confidence tend to stay in their “comfort zone” and dread the risk of rejection. People with low self-confidence are afraid of being judged by their peers and will avoid talking to new people, which can result in isolation and even low self-esteem.
- Building self-confidence. When people believe in their aptitude, their self-confident increases and they can live their life with purpose. Therefore, the first step to building confidence would be to learn to know who you are and more importantly, whose you are, which is a child of God. Recognize that you are allowed not to be perfect, (it’s been done already, remember Jesus?). You can start by:
- Accepting yourself as you. This is the key to building self-confidence. But improving self-confidence also requires that you start taking risks and giving yourself credit for your accomplishments. The Book of Proverbs says, “In the [awe, respect or love] of the Lord there is strong confidence” (14:26).
- Also, pray that the Lord will empower you with great strength. You can download my free ebook titled Empowering Grace to learn more on this. Here’s the link.
These simple tips will help you develop self-confidence. Dr. Norman Vincent Peale once said, “If you want to increase your confidence, to reach more of your goals, begin by really getting to know yourself.” Make a blueprint of what you aspire to be and hold it firmly in your mind. Remember, what you think you are, you are. If you think of yourself as a person who is always afraid to speak in front of crowds, you will always be that person. But if you think of yourself as a person who has something to say that will bless others, and that the Lord will give you the strength to stand up and say it… then that you will become.
Question: What area’s of your life are you lacking self-confidence?
Feel free to leave your answer below in the comment section. I will use the most common responses and develop them into future blog posts to help others.