A great writer once wrote:
You are not alone
I am here with you
Though you’re far away
I am here to stay
But you are not alone
I know you’re thinking “did he just quote Michael Jackson?”
Yes, I did because these words could not be even more exact when it comes to how God feels about you.
God wants you to know that when you feel like no one cares about you or when there is no one else to call for comfort or when your friends have gone astray, and even your dog has been gone all day… you are not alone.
The Bible says it this way in Hebrews 13 “…I will never leave you nor forsake you.”
But did you know that there is a part A of this verse that says,
Keep your life free from the love of money, and be content with what you have, for he has said, “I will never leave you nor forsake you.” Hebrews 13:5 (ESV)
What about your friends
Sometimes when we feel like we are all alone, we need to figure out who were the people that left in the first place.
Did you keep company with those that loved money more than they loved you?
And once the money ran low, so did their friendship.
We can sometimes keep company with other folks that we called family because we aren’t satisfied with the family we have already?
If we notice the people who love us more than money, we might see that the company we need in our lives have been here all along.
But you don’t know my family
Yea, I know they’re not perfect, you uncle Joe drinks too much, you aunt Sally acts a little weird. You and your Mom may not have the most fabulous relationship, and your Dad can sometimes be hit or miss, but these are the people that God has placed in our lives.
The very people you might be running from could be the people God is using to shape you into the person He needs you to become.
Uncle Joe might need someone to show him that he can have a good time without being drunk.
Aunt Sally needs someone to talk to about why she acts the way she does.
You mom only wants the best for you, but you never took the time wonder, what is the best for me?”
And maybe the reason your Dad is hit or miss is because he doesn’t know how he fits in your life because he’s been out of place for so long.
Go back to your first love
But the only way you can heal these relationships and this feeling of loneliness is to reconnect with your first love, which is God.
But I have this against you, that you have abandoned the love you had at first. Revelation 2:4 (ESV)
Here God is saying that, even though you feel alone, you are not, He is here with you now. Through you have run very far (and fast) away, He hasn’t gone anywhere, He is here to stay. He will be right here when you get back.
God promises that He will never leave you nor forsake you, even if you feel like He is far away.
He loves you; He loved you first. And if you look around at those people God has placed in your life; you may find that you were never really alone.
Here are 5 things you can do when you’re feeling like your all alone.
Share your deepest desires and feelings with God
Loneliness is the result of not having anyone with whom we can share our innermost thoughts and feelings with.
When we experience these times of loneliness, we should use them as an opportunity to “draw nearer to God, and He will draw nearer to you …” (James 4:8).
Remember, we have an incredible friend in Jesus Christ, and He “sticks closer than a brother” (Proverbs 18:24). So, talk to Him.
Use loneliness as a tool
Loneliness can become a “tool” if we use it motivates us to seek a closer relationship with God instead of looking for the fellowship of others.
Once we are reconnected and recognizing God’s desire to draw us closer to Himself, we will then see that He also wants us to build meaningful relationships with other like-minded people.
God uses the church as the body of Christ, and we are to edify each other. (see Romans 12:5).
Call the last person whom you may have offended.
Sometimes we can draw away from people because we think they wouldn’t want anything to do with us.
Instead, it’s because of something they did to us or maybe some we had said to them.
But what I have learned is that people are very resilient beings. Most people can withstand or recover quickly from difficult situations.
Some people can be devastated by losing everything in a house fire, but once they have a clear explanation about what happened, they can move on and rebuild their lives.
Calling or texting someone you may have offended, and giving them a heartfelt explanation and apology, could go along way towards rebuilding your relationship.
Be content with you already have
The Apostle Paul said this to the church at Philippi
“for I have learned in whatever situation I am to be content.” (Philippians 4:11).
People can be deceived into thinking they would be content if they could just have one more possession, one more accomplishment or a particular person in their life.
Be still and learn to desire the will of God. I promise that if you desire the things of God, He will give you the desires of your heart. (Psalm 37:4)
Use loneliness to help other lonely people
As you might have figured out from being lonely yourself, most lonely people are hurting people.
You can spot other lonesome people even if they’re putting on a front and trying to act like they’re ok.
Use that insight to help others overcome this solitary state they seem to find themselves in.
Who knows, it could make a new friend.
I can hear God saying:
Just the other night
I thought I heard you cry
Asking me to come
And hold you in my arms
I can hear your prayers
Your burdens I will bear
But first I need your hand
Then forever can begin
Ok, I just quote Michael Jackson again. And I don’t know if God ever listen to Michael’s music, but can’t you hear God saying these words?
Remember, you are not alone. Amen!
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